What I’ve learnt from junior tennis…Keep learning

never stop learning

‘Learning never stops for a coach and player and building up that rapport and relationship comes with many ups and down.’ (tweeted by @40__Love).

The word coach could easily be swapped for mum and dad. As parents we also need to work on our rapport and relationship with our child too. It is all too easy to say something to our child that we would never say to somebody outside our family. Yet during a tennis competition when emotions are running high and children can be at their most sensitive and saying the wrong thing could have a catastrophic effect. (For more on this read ‘6 ideas to stay calm when your child is competing.‘)

stuck-in-concreteMy daughter had a ‘bad day at the office’ yesterday not helped by the fact that she was not feeling great the evening before and rather than being asleep at her usual time of 9pm, she was unhappy and awake at midnight. Hardly any surprise, that the next morning following an early alarm call and a two hour drive, she played as though her feet were encased in concrete.

This was not the day for the level of performance I would anticipate from her. Instead I knew that this was a competition just to get through without spirits or motivation dipping too far. So with that in mind, I sat with a fixed smile on my face and just told her to go for it. After each match, it was just a little encouragement rather than expectation. Then get home as quickly as possible with a MacDonald’s treat on the journey back.

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We’ll start again with the next coaching session and the next match and ‘know’ it will be better next time! We can both keep learning.

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Good luck!

I am a tennis parent, educationalist and author. My guide for tennis parents is written and I’m now looking for a publisher. Please follow me on on twitter @tennisdaduk.

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